In the midst of my family, youth and community sciences finals

I'm so tired of all this blaming.
Why even bothering saying the causes of things like depression and eating disorders?
or anything for that matter?

Its such a waste of time in my major, and yet everyone does it.

"____ is caused by biological, neurochemical, genetic, psychosocial,
family, developmental, and ecological factors."
What the hell is left after that?

The ENTIRE WORLD HAS CAUSED YOUR PROBLEM.

The only cause missing is just fucking reality and the randomness of the world.
Why bother blaming anything?
Why do we continue to need to find someone or something to blame.

In all honesty, it isn't helping us fix the problem, its just creating more resentment.

I blame society for the oppression of women for all of human history. I blame my ancestors for slavery in America.

But what is the point of all the blame? It doesn't make it better. All it really does is make it worse.

In my therapy I will not say, your father's lack of attention to you caused your depression/whatever disorder because he made you so sad that you had to react in some way.

I will instead say, you are depressed for many reasons, not just one, and not just because of one person. Yes, you didn't get as much attention as you needed as a child, especially from your father. But now that you see that, you can learn to overcome it. And you can understand that its not your fault. Its nobody's fault.

Seriously. Its not that hard. Just a matter of simply teaching each other to learn how to accept the things we cannot change. (And of course, to have the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference) ;-)

-kc.